Today’s example of bad relationship advice comes from “Steve Scott” at
I have found that getting on the emailing lists of all these supposed “love gurus” has provided me with a wealth of terrible advice that I can steer my cadets clear of.  The latest email I received from this guru is how he uses texting to enhance his relationships.  Let’s take a look at what he has to say.
Excerpt from the email:

#1- What is the purpose for text messaging?

Bottom line- Text messaging is all about creating and
maintaining sexual tension!

When you first get a number, it's easy to have attraction.
But this is quickly lost in the time between getting her
digits and making that first phone call. With texting, you
can bridge the 'time-gap' and keep the attraction alive.

While I recommend that texting should NEVER replace a phone
call, sending a few can be an excellent way to get a woman to
THINK ABOUT YOU throughout her day.

And when you go to call her, she'll immediately recognize the
good feelings and emotions that you've already given her.
This makes it easy to get her on the phone and set up a 2nd
meeting (ie: First Date)

Upon first glance, this statement does not seem bad but it starts off with serious half truth.  The author claims that attraction can be quickly lost between the time that you get the woman’s phone number and the first time that you call her.  Right off the bat the author makes the incorrect assumption that if a woman gives you her number, she must be attracted to you.  This is simply not the case.  Sometimes a woman will give a man her number (assuming it is not a fake number) just to get rid of him.  Why?  Because she cannot say “No” to his face and it is just easier for her to give him her number and reject him later.

If a woman likes you, and you spent enough time building a genuine connection on your first meeting, the attraction won’t fade between when you got her number and when you call.  Why?  Because she is waiting in anticipation for you to call.  If she is anxiously waiting for you to call then how can her attraction fade?  It can’t.  It is as impossible as trying to look to your left and to your right at exactly the same time.  This “time-gap” the author speaks of actually INCREASES attraction, but only if she likes you to begin with.  If the author understood this simple yet profound concept, there would be no need for his texting tricks.

In my next article I will take a critical look at some of the examples the author uses to show how texting can amplify attraction.

Remember Cadets, if attraction fades in between getting her number and calling her up, she never liked you to begin with.